Coercive control is a pattern of ongoing or repeated coercive and controlling behaviors that causes psychological harm and restricts someone's freedom and resources. It goes beyond isolated incidents.
Characteristics
- Arbitrary rules that constantly change — you never know what is "allowed"
- Micromanagement of daily activities (where you go, when you come home)
- Mood swings used as a fear tool
- Financial deprivation or control
- Monitoring via tracking apps, social media
- Progressive isolation from family and friends
- Using children or the courts as a weapon
What distinguishes it from ordinary conflict
Ordinary conflict concerns a specific situation. Coercive control is a permanent pattern that structurally reduces your freedom, safety and self-confidence — independent of isolated incidents.
Legally recognized in Belgium
Coercive control is explicitly mentioned in Belgian policy frameworks. It can form the basis of a criminal complaint — even without physical violence.
→ IGVM — coercive control (official)
After separation
Coercive control can continue and change form after separation — via the courts, children, finances. See after separation.