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You are not crazy. You are not weak. You are a victim.

1 in 3 men in Belgium will experience intimate partner violence at some point. Yet it remains taboo. This website helps you recognize it, understand it — and move forward.

Figures that might surprise you

1 in 3

men in Belgium has been a victim of intimate partner violence at some point (Belgian EU-GBV survey, N=5800)

74%

of male victims experienced exclusively psychological violence and threats — no physical marks, but real damage

3%

of victims report to the police

+15%

more male victims contacted helpline 1712 in 2024 compared to 2023

Intimate partner violence against men is almost as frequent as against women. Yet men are rarely taken seriously — not by those around them, not by the police, and sometimes not even by themselves. This needs to change.


What will you find on this website?

For men suffering in their relationship

Recognition tools, a quick self-assessment, explanations of why it's hard to leave, a safety plan, and a path to recovery — even if the relationship is already over.

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For professionals and those close to victims

Scientific context on why male victimhood remains invisible, how to recognize it, how to assess risk, and how to refer effectively.

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Video

Breaking the silence — a look into the reality of male victims of intimate partner violence.